I had to deliver a lecture to a group of officials, who were due to retire shortly, on "Coping With Stress". (and hey! I came out with a wonderful and funny conclusion about family life, which i will share in my forthcoming posts!!)
But meanwhile, I got to share something very interesting and positive about stress, this word which we use so much now.
Stress - When you hear this word, what comes to your mind? Tiredness, fatigue, burnout, but actually if we did not have some stress, we would not be doing anything. By the way, its very interesting to know that Stress means a normal physical response to events that make us feel threatened or upset our balance in some way. When we sense some danger - whether its real or its imagined (for some getting stuck in traffic is stress), our body's defenses kick into high gear. And that process of rapid automatic gearing up is known as "Fight-or-Flight" reaction.
Let me share, I was to make a presentation, which I could not finish well before the lecture, and then on the last day, I sat for four hours, with absolute concentration and I could feel eustress working for me positively and constructively!!
Our primitive instincts still work for us! Interestingly, the cave men, when encountered a danger, would either fight it off or run for their life, the same reaction is generated in our minds to this date. A challenging situation puts us in this frame of mind.
In fact, its Eustress, the optimal amount of stress (differs from person to person) required to keep us focused, motivated and moving. Sometimes, we wait for the deadline of a work and start working a few hours or a few days prior to it, and often during that working period, our attention span is longer and we can focus better and the aim is to do the job well. That is eustress working in favour of ourselves. And I am not saying that we should delay our work and wait for the last moments to finish it!!
Anyways, we take stress as something bad, but the fact is that if this stressful situation goes on for a long time (again depends on the person how much can he take), this stress becomes Distress and affects both our mind and our body in a negative way. Distress causes anxiety, decreases performance level, and can lead to mental and physical problems.
So next time, you feel stressed (as a general term), ask yourself, is it Stress, Eustress or Distress ?
If the stress is too less, we rust out and don't perform, if its more, we burnout and cannot perform. Its this optimal stress, just the right amount for you, which makes you perform. Think about it and know what is the optimal stress for you. Find the situation which blocks your mind and work upon it. Find the situations which makes you more productive to use them in a purposeful way.
Let me share, I was to make a presentation, which I could not finish well before the lecture, and then on the last day, I sat for four hours, with absolute concentration and I could feel eustress working for me positively and constructively!!
So cheers to Eustress - use your stress !
Next time, don't be stressed, be eustressed!!
RESTLESS
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