tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post7633356583607211290..comments2024-03-05T13:39:10.805+05:30Comments on My World – My Perception: Rape - Do You Feel Hot About It?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-69406960981142261102011-07-26T05:27:54.110+05:302011-07-26T05:27:54.110+05:30So true are your words and thoughts... Its seems t...So true are your words and thoughts... Its seems that this unacceptable attitude towards Rape, is visible today all around the world!shahnaz_isnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-69422620030802713462011-06-13T17:26:50.824+05:302011-06-13T17:26:50.824+05:30Thanks a lot! very glad to know that :) Welcome he...Thanks a lot! very glad to know that :) Welcome here!<br /><br />Cheers!RESTLESShttp://myworldmyperception.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-56559588247611546022011-06-11T19:10:37.926+05:302011-06-11T19:10:37.926+05:30God...u're such an effective writer!! Totally ...God...u're such an effective writer!! Totally loved ur blog.....went thru a string of posts...and reached here.....Following u already...!!!! Would love to read more from u!!Jaunty Animahttp://jauntyanima.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-46561146500439598492011-06-10T13:55:20.221+05:302011-06-10T13:55:20.221+05:30This is such a true post. I being a girl myself ha...This is such a true post. I being a girl myself have men discard rape, sexual abuse and anything of the similar likes with a shrug and "you brought it upon yourself" look. It pains when your own family looks down upon you, let alone the society. Such an eye opener. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-16745701853275799852011-04-15T23:25:06.775+05:302011-04-15T23:25:06.775+05:30dear RMSH - Thanks for stopping by on my blog and ...dear RMSH - Thanks for stopping by on my blog and commenting on my post on the same subject.<br /><br />This post of yours is very well enunciated. There was much learning from the comments section too.<br /><br />Like one of the commentators mentiond, I envisage a society where, even if a male/female were to move around in the nude, they would be safe.<br /><br />there is much we need to do to move towards such a society. The first step is writing about such cases and inviting mature debate/discussion.All Talk and No Actionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10241065789942589469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-86276503994962079542011-03-31T21:18:17.536+05:302011-03-31T21:18:17.536+05:30A really good post exposing the facade of our soci...A really good post exposing the facade of our society. In the same vein there are people who say that Muslims in Godhra invited the carnage by instigating the majority of that state..<br />So in a way it is not about one gender's crime against another but that of one strong human against a weaker one and smacks of barbarism.Perceptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00413186789182391567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-40734700035232690782011-03-31T04:14:39.267+05:302011-03-31T04:14:39.267+05:30Those men must go and ask male rape victims, which...Those men must go and ask male rape victims, which I'm sure there are enough of, "Did you enjoy it?"<br /><br />Social gestures/body language is another myth that needs busting.Ahimazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13928854862281057692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-82660718902856366022011-03-21T15:19:08.032+05:302011-03-21T15:19:08.032+05:30One of the best blogs I have read recently. And ea...One of the best blogs I have read recently. And each word gave a feel as if it emerged from my own brains and mind. Its too barbaric that the men try to protect those whom are culprits, especially when its a rape. But I do wonder if the same men will speak the same words, supporting the culprits, if the victim is their own wife or daughter? And another bull-shit(pardon me for the language) I have been facing is eve-teasing! Trust me, many a times, I just spitted harsh words on their faces, but never ever could I find anybody around with a supporting expression(atleast). And all this can happen, only here in India!!!Haritha Nairhttp://pen-of-a-nomad.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-26778907602512403412011-03-13T12:35:25.736+05:302011-03-13T12:35:25.736+05:30Well written !!Well written !!Kunal Ashokhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10454827919509955732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-28188509553713959522011-02-15T04:01:21.907+05:302011-02-15T04:01:21.907+05:30Wow restless.. this is one of topics near to my he...Wow restless.. this is one of topics near to my heart. <br />Until and unless there are people like the MIL and the group who are only worried about how to get dressed and get raped by somebody, men who are influenced by such women wil never understand the real situation. But I am not defending that FIL ignorant speeches. <br />Here in europe even when a woman is walking in just underclothes in a main street the percetage of rape is just less than 2%. <br />The more we try to conceal ourselves and become conservative, the worst the situation gets. I feel more comfortable with my body after coming to Europe.<br /><br />Cheers...Bhavana Raohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15308569086961874292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-78208225609828791842011-02-10T02:24:24.066+05:302011-02-10T02:24:24.066+05:30Restless you have raised very important issue. You...Restless you have raised very important issue. You have written almost everything and the commentators too. Rape is funny thing for some people. it's comedy! What to write about rapist. The worst thing is the so called highly sophisticated people around us justifies rapist. And yes Girl is always inviting for them, no need to argue anything, these shameless people will always say the same. To be honest, as the pic shows yes! Real Man never Rape. I think one more thing the films, what they show......suddenly some people go crazy and want to immitate that. Also the rape scenes - isn't it a perfect guide for rapist? Also when we support movies, we support exploitation. Nothing to write, you have written it completely!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02993745946442117074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-30601441348461292452011-02-01T09:46:21.164+05:302011-02-01T09:46:21.164+05:30Too good .. VijetaToo good .. VijetaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-54304426973243735662011-01-31T15:23:43.090+05:302011-01-31T15:23:43.090+05:30A subject which many will not be comfortable with....A subject which many will not be comfortable with.... bravo! If we look at ancient India, women were never treated like this and all this started during medieval times. Like it was always said, <b>YATRA NARYASTU PUJYANTE, RAMANTE TATRA DEVATAH</b> meaning God lives where women are respected. <br />Rape is the most shameful and inhumane act that a MAN can do. I'm not sure how it boosts someone's ego or how someone can even defend it. For that matter even advocates who defend rapists knowing that he has committed the crime, has no right to be called a MAN. Only God knows how they would be showing their face to their wives or daughters or sisters or mother!!!!<br />Understanding what goes inside a rape-victim's mind is something most difficult thing and very horrible. I've been in a situation when I had to counsel someone in such position (I don't want to go into details) but I still remember the night and the following day. And every-time I do so, I get goose-bumps. It's horrible; believe me. Don't know how these people justify it when they say women invite it!!!! <br />Only punishment for such criminals of humanity and more specifically for these criminals of motherhood should be death... by stone pelting. Beat them up till they are dead...<br />Restless.... please accept my thanks for putting this topic here.<br /><a href="http://animeshkmishra.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Just like that...</a>animeshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12234711875258100489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-37415917715063104092011-01-31T12:59:36.534+05:302011-01-31T12:59:36.534+05:30Prashant - u r entitled to have ur own view Prasha...Prashant - u r entitled to have ur own view Prashant.<br /><br />so, we are on the same lines on 'fleeting moment' thing, so why do u have a change of thought in this issue, when u said the same in death sentence post?<br /><br />Raindrop - yes dear its disturbing. I wanted to write about how girls from North East of India are treated in the North. It's strange but true, they are seen as foreigners and... i don't want to say that.<br /><br />so u also wrote about it.<br /><br />Deepika - understand ur anger. btw, a co-blogger named "Desh" told in his comment about the person who said this... if u get time read it!<br /><br />take care<br /><br />RESTLESSA Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-7567389689310981442011-01-31T10:48:54.649+05:302011-01-31T10:48:54.649+05:30What should I say? loads of saying already done. I...What should I say? loads of saying already done. I would just like to thank you for discussing on such a topic.Soumyohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07218399867319941748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-20431736054688228332011-01-22T15:15:57.149+05:302011-01-22T15:15:57.149+05:30this is one sensitive topic and most mis-handled i...this is one sensitive topic and most mis-handled in India.. and yeah if its inevitable why not enjoy it? right? whoever said this must be tied in front of his possessions when it is set on fire and he is unable to do anything.. its inevitable and well, he MUST enjoy it! X-(Deepika Vasudevahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12551767751979830062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-41974478126355137552011-01-21T15:24:31.487+05:302011-01-21T15:24:31.487+05:30I was pretty disturbed when I read your post. Havi...I was pretty disturbed when I read your post. Having lived in the north-east and the rest of the India long enough, it was easy for me to relate to it. This is quite uncanny as i just wrote a short story about how there is this big divide and the north-east gets neglected enough for them to think there is a North east India and a mainland India.Raindrophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05348806432394388278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-68664958271348647772011-01-21T14:20:32.289+05:302011-01-21T14:20:32.289+05:30RMSH,
well...this is where i differ from your pe...RMSH, <br /><br />well...this is where i differ from your perceptions.. i for one.. think that it is next to impossible for a normal person to rape a woman.. because.. the fear.. that someone will see the very act deters him to derive any pleasure from the act itself.. and will not indulge in such an act.. thats why only hard core criminals are capable of such a criminal offence.. <br />i agree about teh fleeting moment.. and infact.. i did mention about the state of the mind.. infact.. when i said about death sentence deterring such acts..i was against it saying it is these fleeting moments ..and coupled wiht the criminal mentality in which such death sentences will never gonna deter a person from committing the crime... no man would think of the consequences and death sentance in 'that fleeting moment'....Prashantnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-73850380474062738792011-01-21T14:08:56.716+05:302011-01-21T14:08:56.716+05:30Matangi Mawley - Welcome.
Yes, it's difficult...Matangi Mawley - Welcome.<br /><br />Yes, it's difficult to make them understand a few things, and more than that to undertand what they are saying . I can imagine how u would hve felt reading the post.<br /><br />take care<br /><br />RESTLESSA Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-69780433077100611092011-01-21T14:03:34.072+05:302011-01-21T14:03:34.072+05:30Desh,
I think you got me wrong, or may be I could...Desh,<br /><br />I think you got me wrong, or may be I could not express properly.<br /><br />I said "let's see can a man refrain from forcing himself on a woman/man there, i guess you really don't NEED to force yourself there. I may be wrong, u can correct me please."<br /><br />Oh, i didn't mean everyone is avaible to everyone there (LOL), I'm sorry if I sounded like that.<br /><br />Of course, the basic rule about not forcing oneself remains there too, must remain there. And also, rightly said, and i agree completely, that shedding clothes doesnot mean any man can get away with anything, no not at all.<br /><br />What I meant was, or may be I am rethinking now about my words, it's a good test for the man about his self control, but things would be different from the typical Indian society, say Delhi, where male female ratio is disbalanced , due to non availability of suitable partners, men may get into a criminal mode (though, we cannot justify this behaviour due to skewed sex ratios, but the fact is that it affects us). When things are less available, we are likely to long and even lust for it. <br /><br />But, yes, on a second thought, I get your point. You have a point.<br /><br />Yes, that would be quite a challenge for men :)<br /><br />thanks!<br /><br />RESTLESSA Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-59860948574989042442011-01-20T19:55:45.038+05:302011-01-20T19:55:45.038+05:30Restless:
"let's see can a man refrain f...Restless:<br /><br />"let's see can a man refrain from forcing himself on a woman/man there, i guess you really don't NEED to force yourself there. I may be wrong, u can correct me please."<br /><br />The rules for forced intercourse should remain the same I am sure. At least on the nudist beaches or any civil society the same rules are followed. And even if the rules aren't followed, its better to talk of the state of the woman. Would a woman who is comfortable shedding her clothes, also willing to be taken by any man? I doubt so. <br /><br />Rape or man's pushing of the burden of self control on to woman is about how woman feels when forced upon by man. I don't think it should be about what a woman is wearing.<br /><br />For someone, a little bit of skin - as in the Islamic societies - is equal to a woman going about nude. For some a short skirt is enough of an invitation.. and for some its the shedding of all the clothes. Whatever the "amount and style of clothing", the onus of a man to hold his "you-know-what" to himself cannot be abandoned!<br /><br />About role-play.. yes, its foolish to assume all women like the same thing. Anyone who is ever been with even one woman would know that even the same woman wants different "roles" to remain excited .. LOL.. so one "role" for all women is certainly a bad idea.. a VERY BAD IDEA!! :)Deshhttp://drishtikone.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-31244322359113714972011-01-20T17:13:29.988+05:302011-01-20T17:13:29.988+05:30Vee - ok will read it Vee. thanks.
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RESTLESSVee - ok will read it Vee. thanks.<br /><br />tc<br /><br />RESTLESSA Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-86454966333229569622011-01-20T17:10:54.547+05:302011-01-20T17:10:54.547+05:30Desh -
Thanks :) am glad I could bring out those ...Desh -<br /><br />Thanks :) am glad I could bring out those expressions and words.<br /><br />Thanks a ton for sharing a lot of facts. esp no. 2<br /><br />Role play, glad someone mentioned it. This does create a false image about women. It can be true for some, for whom normal is boring, but for God's sake you cannot take the women in general like that! But yes, such literature, and yes movies too are to be blames for such a potrayal where, u can win a woman by pusing her against the wall, either physically or mentally or emotionally.<br /><br />Ah, this good girl, good woman thing irritates me... just don't understand what is the criteria... i think i wrote about this as a comment in some blog...these are sheer double standards, let me say.<br /><br />About the test of a man (!) thing, (quite a test it is!). But on a serious note, crimes happen where things are either not available or are excessively available. A nudist society would have a different set of rules, and i don't think monogamy would be one of those... so if you only mean... let's see can a man refrain from forcing himself on a woman/man there, i guess you really don't NEED to force yourself there. I may be wrong, u can correct me please.<br /><br />thanks for your time and effort, Desh.<br /><br />RESTLESSA Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-16797478899063398292011-01-20T16:59:08.843+05:302011-01-20T16:59:08.843+05:30RRAJIV - thanks.
Vee - Things have changed no dou...RRAJIV - thanks.<br /><br />Vee - Things have changed no doubt, but somewhere, some men, a big chunk that is, is still the same, rather I would say men today have become insecure of women. Also, the disbalanced male-female ratio is also responsible for the crimes against women. Again, education can solve this problem.<br /><br />glad u found the post thought provoking.<br /><br />RESTLESSA Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-15263781781804556492011-01-20T16:54:49.535+05:302011-01-20T16:54:49.535+05:30PRASHANT -
Thanks :)
Threatened, yes, when men ...PRASHANT - <br /><br />Thanks :)<br /><br />Threatened, yes, when men feel so, they are more aggressive.<br /><br />I agree, to some extent, that women, as they have a lot of choices available to them as far as attire is concerened, must choose the appropriate dressing keeping in view the place and the occasion. No denying that.<br /><br />No, I don't think they are some hard core criminals who rape a helpless woman. It's about that wild moment, it's about that one aggressive moment, of hurt ego, or provocation when a man ceases to think, think of the consequences... i think that one moment separates a man from a beast. It's a thin line, i guess. That's why, u see the faces of those rapists, they are ordinary looking, unsuspecting ppl, but those small choices of life, or that inability to make a choice at that moment brings out their dark side. I guess, all of us have that dark side of ours. But we know how to keep that in check. so, people are not born as criminals.<br /><br />Rape is hard to prove? I don't think so. It's the stigma attached to its revelation and the aftermath which stops a woman to speak up about it. <br /><br />Pls write back, if u don't agree.<br /><br />RESTLESSA Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.com