tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post887835092693072675..comments2024-03-05T13:39:10.805+05:30Comments on My World – My Perception: Why Is It So Difficult To Deal With Women?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-30361098701162862222011-04-08T05:11:18.301+05:302011-04-08T05:11:18.301+05:30Women are born as natural bitches, they live in th...Women are born as natural bitches, they live in their own cruel bitchy women world that we guys are not aware of.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-66457617199378365342011-03-31T03:54:35.120+05:302011-03-31T03:54:35.120+05:30With regard to the left/right brain theory, it sou...With regard to the left/right brain theory, it sounds like just another myth to be busted, perhaps it's already. Deborah Cameron in her "The Myth of Venus and Mars", which I was about to read but had a feeling I already knew the content, deals with the same or similar "conditioning". It's all the wiser to treat both genders equally.Ahimazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13928854862281057692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-78375468721341674422010-11-20T16:09:23.702+05:302010-11-20T16:09:23.702+05:30Amropali - thanks a ton dear! Made my day! Really ...Amropali - thanks a ton dear! Made my day! Really glad to know that u found is useful in some way, and we think on the same lines :)<br /><br />psst... yes, this post is quite long!<br /><br />Stay in touch,<br /><br />RESTLESSA Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-66780520669666629982010-11-20T16:06:58.902+05:302010-11-20T16:06:58.902+05:30Alka - Welcome to this blog! Good to hear that, co...Alka - Welcome to this blog! Good to hear that, completely agree!<br /><br />Preeti, good to know that u never had to face such a situation. Being very formal and officious does not go well with women, specially junior than u, they take u just as another woman, and don't accept ur position easily.<br /><br />Yes, women in senior or middle positions have to get tough, but then again getting tough with men is easy and with women, slightly complicated. Or at least, that is what I faced.<br /><br />Anyways, thanks, have decided to treat everyone at par now on!!<br /><br />thanks for sharing ur views :)<br /><br />RESTLESSA Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-10216181568635685632010-11-20T16:02:38.886+05:302010-11-20T16:02:38.886+05:30Neo - yes, generally men are polite towards women,...Neo - yes, generally men are polite towards women, which tells a lot about them, mostly about their education and all. Rest, is ur view, though I don't agree with it much.<br /><br />Desi girl,<br /><br />Left right theory thing, was loud thinking, as I wrote, while i was trying to understand. The lesson learnt is same as what u have written.<br /><br />thanks.<br /><br />RESTLESSA Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-19932821697911273112010-11-19T23:11:04.116+05:302010-11-19T23:11:04.116+05:30'Have you ever felt that in personal relations...'Have you ever felt that in personal relationships too being friends with boys, while in school or college or work place, was less complicated than girls? ' <br />YES! always. But i was too lazy to ever sit and analyze and now that I have read your post and I can see that most of what u've written is something that has occurred to me now and then, in bits and pieces, and seeing it in black and white just gives me a clearer perspective.<br /><br />I liked the clarity of thought and the organization of points.<br />A long but good write.<br /><br />Best<br />AmropaliAmropalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09639390876321920913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-37691904403205772032010-11-19T22:51:27.449+05:302010-11-19T22:51:27.449+05:30may be because you approach women with a predefine...may be because you approach women with a predefined notion ...try treating everyone in same way and with no prejudice and then may be it will be a fair approach ..<br /><br />if we talk of women at work , i will like you to consider some things ... women are less in number as you start getting up the ladder ... and the ones who are there have to behave like a tuff one otherwise they are not taken seriously .. they might react to certain thngs but what they face on day to day basis make them react in that way most of the time<br /><br /><br />at the same time men are mostly polite with women on face , so may be you will not face any problem as such ..but watch out for gossip behind your back ..they do it more than girls ..<br /><br />I personally never had problems in 7 years of work life ..and I am good looking / good at my work ..have excellent rapport with seniors amd have plenty of friends from work place .Preetihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07761022939902063787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-75762600780835607562010-11-19T11:55:15.461+05:302010-11-19T11:55:15.461+05:30Wow!...I guess women are more complicated...Weathe...Wow!...I guess women are more complicated...Weather it is emotions, genetic wiring or hormones I am not sure. Interesting post, nevertheless.Alka Gurhahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12050387590729571321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-29947246976781714012010-11-18T22:43:04.602+05:302010-11-18T22:43:04.602+05:30There is nothing personal about it. It is about ma...There is nothing personal about it. It is about making wide generalizations that are never going to be true for all people at all times, definitely for some people at some or most times. <br /><br />You were or are kind to your female colleagues because you are a kind person or a person who wants to do the right thing and would like to be treated with degnity and respect. It has got nothing to do with the right or left brain. All it has got to do is with doing the right thing. If one is spending too much time on making pleasantaries just because they are interacting with a woman and not a man then it is their personal thing. They have to decide how much is too much. <br /><br />I am kind or sensitive not because I am a waman. I am kind because I am a human. I am straight forward not because I am like men because that is how it should be with human beings. <br /><br />I guess here we part...<br />Peace,<br /><br />Desi Girlgirlsguidetosurvivalhttp://girlsguidetosurvival.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-25650311855113458262010-11-18T19:39:30.489+05:302010-11-18T19:39:30.489+05:30Desi girl,
I read ur comment:
"You are sugg...Desi girl,<br /><br />I read ur comment:<br /><br />"You are suggesting you are more like men straight forward thus using your right brain and all other women are left brainers. How come you became right brainer? Ain't you woman or you ain't have any left brain at all?"<br /><br />(There was an error on my part in writing left as right, have corrected it, and now reading ur comment in the way, you wanted me to understand, ie reading left as right n vice versa!)<br /><br />Either you have not read the post properly, or you have not understood it. <br /><br />It was my sensitivity towards women which made me softer towards them. So left brain or right??<br /><br />By the way, Restless Mind doesnot accept such personal attacking comments on her blog.<br /><br />Please read the post properly before jumping to a conclusion and writing a comment.<br /><br /><br />RESTLESS MINDA Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-75301249274616023912010-11-18T19:37:29.341+05:302010-11-18T19:37:29.341+05:30true, its the same with me too at times. i tend to...true, its the same with me too at times. i tend to speak softer while conversing with women and tend to be rude while speaking with men. it just happens. I dont know whether this has got anything to do wiht the right or left thing of the brain. <br /><br />having said that i would like to add something more too, and this has come out from my experiences from most of my women friend....<br /><br />women for most part of their lives are frivolous people. they are excessively bored by the seriousness with which men like me treat them. and i have also found that they can seldom resist the bafoon who can make them laugh....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-37285901746276672872010-11-18T19:22:58.737+05:302010-11-18T19:22:58.737+05:30True. Its the same with me. I am different with me...True. Its the same with me. I am different with men and women. With women while talking i am soft while with men i tend to sound rude. It just happens. Can't say for sure its the right or left brain thing or not.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-25992499152695628442010-11-18T14:02:25.173+05:302010-11-18T14:02:25.173+05:30Hello Vikram Karve !
Thanks a ton for finding th...Hello Vikram Karve ! <br /><br />Thanks a ton for finding that mistake :) saved me :) Yeah, I typed the opposite, ooopppsss! Now changed it.<br /><br />Yeah, I came to know about this in a training some time back. As far as I understand, left thumb up means u r a right brainer, heart over head in decisions. <br /><br />Glad u liked it, I value ur comments and views.<br /><br />Regards<br /><br />RESTLESSA Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-55716137848125901882010-11-18T13:58:39.057+05:302010-11-18T13:58:39.057+05:30Desi girl,
agree with ur second comment, almost ...Desi girl, <br /><br />agree with ur second comment, almost completely. minus the last line :<br /><br />"Only if men could consider women as humans then we could talk about absolute eqaulity."<br /><br />I think, u went too far in this statement.<br /><br />tc<br /><br />RESTLESSA Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-27095883140342993342010-11-18T13:56:45.036+05:302010-11-18T13:56:45.036+05:30@Anuragsayz: thanks for your comment.
well, it n...@Anuragsayz: thanks for your comment. <br /><br />well, it needs a little more experience and maturity to understand why women have to be given a differntial treatment at certain places, like public transport etc (as I wrote in your blog too). Moreover, rules are not the same for men in women in Indian society, u know that. Men are still not able to give equality to women at homefront, which is like a cycle that goes on.<br /><br />I could write a whole post on this!<br /><br />take care<br /><br />RESTLESSA Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-39535001615544280102010-11-18T13:31:01.140+05:302010-11-18T13:31:01.140+05:30Dear Restless,
Hey, I think right brain is concern...Dear Restless,<br />Hey, I think right brain is concerned with emotions and the left with logic. Am I right?<br />BTW, I tried the test - my left thumb always comes on top - that means I am a right brain thinker, heart over head, right?<br />Await your reply.<br />A very good write up with useful info.<br />Regards<br />VikramVikram Waman Karvehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00290102473130246523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-45897885356961489412010-11-18T13:28:44.675+05:302010-11-18T13:28:44.675+05:30Purba - thesis!! yeah, kind of :D
Glad to know abt...Purba - thesis!! yeah, kind of :D<br />Glad to know abt ur experience, yes of course, I can not and am not generalizing anything here. Just writing what I experienced.<br /><br />RESTLESS :)A Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-8243675558456826712010-11-18T13:12:59.201+05:302010-11-18T13:12:59.201+05:30@anuragsayz,
Every time the issue of sensitivity ...@anuragsayz,<br /><br />Every time the issue of sensitivity in public place is raised immediately figures are pointed towards women's quest for equality. Can women really claim equality? Are the work places safe for them, are they safe when they travel to work (let us not forget the raped and murdered call center worker http://news.outlookindia.com/item.aspx?342213 ). It came out coz' she was killed, so many women face sexual harassment and sexual assaults while traveling in India) Are men sexually assaulted when they are traveling? Does fear of assault prevents them from taking night shifts?<br /><br />Do Women get ready steaming hot meals when they return home from work? Are their clothes washes and ironed for them? When they come home late from work nobody questions and bothers them. Children just are happy to see them and in-laws and spouse do a happy dance for them. :) <br /><br />...So if they are so keen on getting their rights(equality) then they also have to accept the norm of how a corporate society works...<br /><br />Only if men could treat their partners as equals at home and be sensitive to their being then they'll be sensitive and logical (read human) in true sense or they are just boxed in a male box. Only then the meaning of equality in the corporate sector will have a meaning. <br /><br />...Equality has to be absolute.<br /><br />Nothings is absolute until men denounce their male previlege. <br />http://sap.mit.edu/content/pdf/male_privilege.pdf<br /><br />Only if men could consider women as humans then we could talk about absolute eqaulity.<br /><br />Peace,<br /><br />Desi Girlgirlsguidetosurvivalhttp://http//:girlsguidetosurvival.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-79355490261147198252010-11-18T12:47:11.379+05:302010-11-18T12:47:11.379+05:30Man that was something amazing. In depth analysis....Man that was something amazing. In depth analysis.... U seen to be some expert as far as dealing with women is concerned. <br />I peronally believe that gone are the days when women were surrounded in "CHAR DIWARI". They have come out of closet and are asking for equality. So if they are so keen on getting their rights(equality) then they also have to accept the norm of how a corporate society works. They want equality in salary, work and all other things but still they want us (men) to treat them in a different way. Now thats what is unacceptable to me. Equality has to be absolute.ANURAGSAYZhttp://anuragsayz.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-26256075226804330812010-11-18T12:13:00.462+05:302010-11-18T12:13:00.462+05:30Ah the left brainer right brainer...
You are sugg...Ah the left brainer right brainer...<br /><br />You are suggesting you are more like men straight forward thus using your right brain and all other women are left brainers. How come you became right brainer? Ain't you woman or you ain't have any left brain at all?<br /><br />Desi Girl is an equal opportunity rude; She has a non discrimination policy thus gender is no bar. She can't understand women and there is nothing much to figure out men so no need to waste time on either. DG identifies the problem, delineate the problem to plan the solution and execute the plan. So right brain or left?<br /><br />There will be some drama queens every where be it at work or at home. They bring their baggage from home to work and then carry the work junk home. They just love to carry it around, if they were to live a day without it they'll go out of their minds. Their baggage makes them feel alive. These are insecure creatures, attention and approval junkies they are adult bullies. They gang up against anyone who is better than them in any way. No matter what you do they'll be threatened. If DG comes to a room be like a wall flower still these creatures will feel insecure. So stop bothering, just make a note in your log about what happened for future references and HR purposes.<br /><br /><br />About the drama kings, they save it for home cause at work it will be very unmanly to show emotions. The amount of gossip men indulge in is known to DG, who came when, with whom and what is going on in so and so's relationship especially women's is their personal business. If they are in subordinate position to a female then it is even more difficult for them to deal with.Just imagine how emasculated this culture makes them feel. They'll spread malice against the woman. <br /><br />How to deal with them: <br />Complement them every now and then. You teach people how to treat you. It is just like dog training, you reinforce positive behavior with complements. You sandwich a hard truth between two lies- Wao you look great, the work you did sucks, but look you are so sporty to make it work...<br />Have worked with all kinds of drama kings and queens so this is what I learned. Keep them at work don't invite them home. Your friends need not be your co workers. Yes, you do spend 8 hrs with them but you are paid to bear their company. Imagine how releaved their loved ones feel once they leave the home in the morning.<br /><br />Hope it helps,<br />Peace,<br /><br />Desi Girlgirlsguidetosurvivalhttp://girlsguidetosurvival.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-15058061975201700872010-11-18T12:04:06.332+05:302010-11-18T12:04:06.332+05:30Reema, hahaha, I am relieved to know this from yo...Reema, hahaha, I am relieved to know this from you!! I am not alone in the boat!<br /><br />Vee - thanks for your comment. Yeah, man-man talk is simpler at the surface, at least!A Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-66255734176711150712010-11-18T11:59:19.970+05:302010-11-18T11:59:19.970+05:30Whoa that's some thesis you've written :))...Whoa that's some thesis you've written :))<br />I am a certified right brainer. Most women think with their heart rather than their head. That's where the problem lies. <br /><br />But I have dealt with some incredibly mature female colleagues, women who I looked up to. So there, it's more about the person's maturity, professionalism rather than the gender.Purbahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06345755953291104000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-65322470788146104442010-11-18T11:41:14.712+05:302010-11-18T11:41:14.712+05:30I don't know how it's with women, but if y...I don't know how it's with women, but if you have to talk to someone regarding business or as a part of your profession then being straightforward and to the point is the right way. At least I would do it that way.<br /><br />Personally, I didn't have any problems at all with the women I came across in my professional life. And may be because of this I'm not qualified to talk about this.Veehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01191763226046803992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-19002746633078519662010-11-18T00:32:07.985+05:302010-11-18T00:32:07.985+05:30ohhh women are really hard to understand and deal ...ohhh women are really hard to understand and deal with!! totally agree with u!Reemahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13491748504763527697noreply@blogger.com