tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post470138788297992917..comments2024-03-05T13:39:10.805+05:30Comments on My World – My Perception: What Is Your Definition Of A Good Girl?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger51125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-49073408673366825702013-08-24T17:46:44.976+05:302013-08-24T17:46:44.976+05:30Just want to clarify where I come from before answ...Just want to clarify where I come from before answering my perception of "what is a good girl?"<br /><br />I am a Christian male from Canada, who has just come across this blog 2 and a half years after it was posted.<br />I, absolutely, do not like or respect religion: be it Christian, Catholic, Islam, Buddhist, Hindi, or whatever.<br />I do, however, respect faith and people thereof.<br />Religious people are close-minded and damage other people, whereas people of faith are welcoming and hospitable to anyone no matter their background, faith, or religion.<br />Now with that clarified, I can answer, however, my answer doesn't just apply to girls, it applies to anyone, child, teen, adult, either male or female.<br /><br />1. You/we have high standards, high values, and high morals.<br />2. We re always respectful of others; even if we disagree. Also, expect respect in return.<br />3. We are not naive, nor do we allow people walk all over us. We stand-up for our standards, values, and morals. We believe in ourselves but not more than our belief and honour to our God;<br />4. We are faithful in all respect, including telling the truth in all situations (even if it hurts), keeping our word and vows when we give them(be loyal); and living a life of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and definitely, with self-control; do everything with purpose. (I believe these are the basic 9 in all faiths).<br />5. Be courageous. Deal with problems, do not run/hide/avoid from them (high standards and values);<br />6. Have faith in God (or Allah; or whatever name you give Him/It); be true to your faith and not religion, for religion can be manipulated and destroyed. Be righteous in all your words and actions. Desire a greater, more substantial faith, and a truer relationship with God.<br />7. When seeking a relationship with another person; find someone who is here with you, ideally of the same faith, however, since respect is a big thing here, make certain that they can respect your faith while maintaining their own. Good people, deserve good people. Anything else leads to complications.<br /><br />I have only met 5 other people who fall in these qualities. I call them good friends. People I meet who come close, I call friend. Everyone else is acquaintance. I have no enemies, nor am I anyone's.<br /><br />Well, there's my perspective.<br /><br />Kami no SamuraiKami no Samurainoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-37459085475473591622012-09-06T22:00:49.906+05:302012-09-06T22:00:49.906+05:30the thing which your mother told is completely gen...the thing which your mother told is completely gender discrimination. why can only men is allowed to do all the things? who told that men should only work and girls should stay in the house cooking? this gender discrimination was followed before 100 of years ago because stupid old men with an IQ of 2 told that women are weak. why should only girls should be good? why do society always blames the girl? i hate gender discrimination and iam very nonconventional. people should like for who YOU are not because the society says so. that is why i love america and its culture. they dont show gender discrimination as much as india. in kerela girls should not go out at night or wear bad clothes or shout and play. they should be quiet, shy and should not speak anything unless they are spoken to. are girls slaves? and they should do all they cooking and the cleaning. typically a slave. hate indian culture. gayathrinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-71942188133145221642012-03-19T16:48:45.146+05:302012-03-19T16:48:45.146+05:30Thanks ALL for opening my eyes (verbatim translati...Thanks ALL for opening my eyes (verbatim translation of a Hindi phrase to English)...All these days, I was thinking Rani was the good girl and Vidya the bad one.!! LOLZRubin_in_Hydnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-50521480191704429352011-07-08T04:51:22.491+05:302011-07-08T04:51:22.491+05:30The first para of good, doesn't sound to be de...The first para of good, doesn't sound to be defining good but rather being more mature or aged.Rahulnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-22167602429390293142011-04-05T15:24:31.620+05:302011-04-05T15:24:31.620+05:30Personally i think the whole generation is confuse...Personally i think the whole generation is confused bout the role of woman in general....give it another 5 yrs and u wont have to convince ur friend..Perceptionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00413186789182391567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-84700743263378098292011-03-30T22:25:46.468+05:302011-03-30T22:25:46.468+05:30A good person (girl or boy) is someone who's a...A good person (girl or boy) is someone who's aware of the flaws in her personality, to begin with; who doesn't succumb to peer/societal pressure; who's well-read and analytical (point/counterpoint); who meditates on and does things that matter; whose life isn't skin-deep...<br /><br />Presence of this goodness, we know, however, cannot BE in the absence of its own grayness.<br /><br />Things like smoking/drinking/casual sex, boys do it so why not girls. Here's an undercurrent, especially involving the latter, again meaning it for both sexes. But, boys, don't tell girls they can't do it if you think your kind can and, girls, likewise..Ahimazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13928854862281057692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-2735995483249981022011-03-18T15:57:49.390+05:302011-03-18T15:57:49.390+05:30I did not see this movie yet, but to the best of m...I did not see this movie yet, but to the best of my knowledge, a Good Girl should obey her parents either in personal or professional life, should know her limits take steps prudently never down her respect at any cost. And to drink to smoke or to have any sexual relation is not good for boy and girl at all.<br /><br />Regards,<br /><br />Sophia Awan.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-28125390360409730952011-03-18T15:49:57.042+05:302011-03-18T15:49:57.042+05:30I did'nt see this movie yet to best of my know...I did'nt see this movie yet to best of my knowledge a Good girl is always obey her parents either in personal or profession life and to drink smoke is not good for girl and boy as well. A good girl should take steps prudently and to be in limit and do not down her respect in any cost.<br /><br />Regards,<br /><br />Sophia Awan.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03186615154787685027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-91972779458776687362011-03-18T05:56:40.677+05:302011-03-18T05:56:40.677+05:30I couldn't help but comment on this one.A lot ...I couldn't help but comment on this one.A lot of men would let their parents choose.Women aren't Miss Goody Two Shoes any more.Hell,I wouldn't judge anyone because she can enjoy casual sex or drink or smoke (as long as she has a job and is not a minor).Loved your take.Blue Lotushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14847081762013816131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-91386569907840152412011-03-14T21:13:24.208+05:302011-03-14T21:13:24.208+05:30YOU have asked the most difficult question to answ...YOU have asked the most difficult question to answer...<br /><br />as many has perceived good or bad is defined according to individuals.<br /><br />these are qualities that are good and these are that bad - we can never say that.<br />drinking, smoking, and ya casual sex is bad, and this is not good for individuals mental and physical well being too.<br /><br />but this does not hold line for women alone. If it is bad for woman it is bad for men too.<br />commitment in relationship is also needed from both ends.<br /><br />so a good or bad girl can never be defined.<br />but being in addiction over the same, roaming with skimpy skinny skirts and pubbing, partying all time is definitely my definition of bad.<br /><br />OK on how would i want my girl to be, " she is to be bold, clever, one concerned with society, knowledgeable, the one who is committed to me and the one that i can trust on forever. she should be a woman who understands me and whom i can understand. i will have no problem with her sitting down on a occasional drink alongside with me,, in fact i will love it. she should be independent and who can take bold decisions and who wishes to to go on and achieve something.<br /><br />and i believe when a woman is like this concerned and bold she will know what she is doing, she will never harm the society nor the culture and that's how i define a good girl.the criticshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14212062315291162243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-8476805935164571372011-03-02T01:45:36.136+05:302011-03-02T01:45:36.136+05:30Its a nice post.... Ah! I really wanted to write s...Its a nice post.... Ah! I really wanted to write something of this sort.... <br />Nyways.... For me 'Good' and 'Bad' is always a perception... Like the character of Rani is good for "Jessica" and for her viewers who have seen her as a brave journalist. But when it comes to that Boy whom she left... or her traditional aunt (not present in movie though) she is a 'bad' girl....<br /><br />Sometimes I get perplexed with this thought that if everything is perception, how can one decide, what is good and what is bad???? Then, I get the answer that perception again has the foundation from the society we live in.... But as we grow, as we educate ourselves, we should broaden our view to see from more angles, rather than a narrow line...Sowjeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01181001058125444076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-47741382619075789642011-02-06T17:17:33.385+05:302011-02-06T17:17:33.385+05:30Very intriguing. Never thought about this before, ...Very intriguing. Never thought about this before, until I read PB's post and thereby hopped over here to read yours.<br />Like I mentioned there, each person has a different definition of good. What is good to one may be bad to someone else. What is immaterial to me may probably be very material to someone from an older generation.<br />IMHO, if a person can just manage to 'not wish ill' for someone else, I think that is good enough for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-7847054088106160582011-02-01T02:12:55.306+05:302011-02-01T02:12:55.306+05:30Yeah true, in reality the rules for both are not t...Yeah true, in reality the rules for both are not the same, but for me they are...individual perspective! But for me a person whether a boy or a girl should not only be true to others but to oneself too!Nikethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03077942972110715550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-84862333544229743652011-02-01T02:12:55.031+05:302011-02-01T02:12:55.031+05:30Yeah true, in reality the rules for both are not t...Yeah true, in reality the rules for both are not the same, but for me they are...individual perspective! But for me a person whether a boy or a girl should not only be true to others but to oneself too!Nikethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03077942972110715550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-89329388219312603152011-01-31T12:54:17.308+05:302011-01-31T12:54:17.308+05:30Psych Babbler - LOL @ ur description of bad girl t...Psych Babbler - LOL @ ur description of bad girl thing!! Like ur honesty and attitude :)<br /><br />Very well said, the second para, sums up a lot of things.<br /><br />thanks for sharing ur views :)<br /><br />RESTLESSA Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-40867098835021276232011-01-31T12:51:21.813+05:302011-01-31T12:51:21.813+05:30Nikhil Garg - Sorry, I missed out on your comment....Nikhil Garg - Sorry, I missed out on your comment.<br /><br />Nikhil, this time there is no clash!!<br /><br />Yes, the definition is very very subjective, therefore, I didn't even expect a generalization of this. So, I asked for individual opinion of each blogger pal on the issue - What is YOUR definition of a good girl?<br /><br />This was just a way to initiate a discussion, On the changing morality scenario of our society.<br /><br />Would like to know ur take on this question.<br /><br />take care<br /><br />RESTLESSA Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-72249735261504105992011-01-31T12:46:34.249+05:302011-01-31T12:46:34.249+05:30@NIMESH - I saw the post. You have a point.
Niket...@NIMESH - I saw the post. You have a point.<br /><br />Niket - So somebody who is herself, without pretence is a good girl girl for you.<br /><br />You feel that the rules should be the same for both the genders. But do we really see that around? let me know what u think about it.<br /><br />RESTLESSA Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-45167621710613030622011-01-30T14:08:52.064+05:302011-01-30T14:08:52.064+05:30Based on the answers by people to this post, I rec...Based on the answers by people to this post, I reckon I'm a "bad girl" :P I'm not traditional, I do swear when I am angry or experiencing road rage (not at people), I do enjoy drinking, I wear what I want...<br /><br />I think in general though, a good person (girl or boy) is someone who lives their life with honesty and genuineness and kindness without intentionally harming others. Who cares about swearing or drinking or smoking or casual sex as long as no one else is being harmed???Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-45602834077225779592011-01-29T21:01:30.962+05:302011-01-29T21:01:30.962+05:30For me the rules of conduct, character and behavio...For me the rules of conduct, character and behavior are the same for both the boys as well as the girls. I mean how can you expect your partner to be sober if you yourself are a heavy drinker, a nymphomaniac or a womanizer.<br />My definition of a good girl or rather a good person is a one who is what he/she actually is...I detest when a person tries to be one who he is actually not, as simple as that!Nikethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03077942972110715550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-13173505057315856072011-01-28T13:16:38.746+05:302011-01-28T13:16:38.746+05:30this link does not have relevance to the actual qu...this link does not have relevance to the actual question, but it is relevant with the point raised by me, i.e. equality. Equality is important in all relations, be it gender or otherwise. I just wanted to put a point across that we all live in dual-mode. Something which is correct for us becomes wrong for others and this is true with genders also:)animeshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12234711875258100489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-3282563785280005942011-01-28T12:04:42.809+05:302011-01-28T12:04:42.809+05:30@animesh - I didn't relly understand what is t...@animesh - I didn't relly understand what is the relevance of this question here? but will c the link u left.<br /><br />If co-existence has never taken place then we must move towards that. I don't see any reason why one gender should dominate and RULE over the other.<br /><br />Glad u agree with setting similar standards for all. <br /><br />thanks for sharing ur views :)<br /><br />RESTLESSA Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-31328385067966603122011-01-27T12:13:20.663+05:302011-01-27T12:13:20.663+05:30How could I miss this post? Relevant question...Pe...How could I miss this post? Relevant question...Personally I do not approve of using bad words..It shows lack of culture.<br />As adults we all know that excessive smoking and drinking are not good for health.<br />Having said that smoking drinking and sexual preferences are personal. Suppose there is an injured person lying unattended on the road. A girl who swears, drinks and has multiple partners comes out to help the guy is a good girl. Whats the point of being good if you cant feel for others?An immoral person can be good and vice verse.Alka Gurhahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12050387590729571321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-76385405224925556602011-01-25T18:03:53.044+05:302011-01-25T18:03:53.044+05:30As usual restless and me are going to have a clash...As usual restless and me are going to have a clash of opinions but I think very question is flawed. NO generalizations possible !<br /><br />We all operate on our basic mental framework and perception and senses imbibed for a lifetime and as we all dont agree even on basic principles, we can't hope to reach same logical conclusions. <br /><br />Its too subjective. What is the purpose of asking this anyhow ? Why judge people ? Why not respect their individuality as it comes ?NGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00137167173637522039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-78142236249179782042011-01-25T13:28:54.074+05:302011-01-25T13:28:54.074+05:30Thanks Restless....
"I have to say, this happ...Thanks Restless....<br />"I have to say, this happens when the tables get turned, but this is a phase before the two genders learn to co-exist on an equal footing"<br />Let me tell you there would never be a time when these two genders would co-exist. Man (meant for both genders :p) by nature carries egos and always loves to rule. See it in the history... tell me one culture where men and women have ever co-existed. One has always ruled the other. We either have male dominated societies or female dominated societies; never have I heard of non-dominated societies.<br />But yes, we have to understand that standards that we fix for ourselves are true for others also. If I booze, I've no right to stop others. If I had sex before marriage, I can't expect a virgin wife. Unfortunately I've seen my friends expecting that. <br />But, girls also need to understand the reality. If you expect something from boys, we also expect something in return. If you want to lead an independent life, so do we:). Let us all who are talking of equality and independence answer a simple question....<br /><a href="http://animeshkmishra.blogspot.com/2010/12/what-if-your-son-wanted-to-marry-boy.html" rel="nofollow">What if you son wanted to marry a boy?</a>animeshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12234711875258100489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-45371134466664753602011-01-25T13:17:01.832+05:302011-01-25T13:17:01.832+05:30@nimesh - really liked ur views :
"else what...@nimesh - really liked ur views :<br /><br />"else what would you call those girls who don't drink, don't smoke, remain devoted to their husbands but cause a lot of troubles to their in-laws after marriage? Tell me who is good or bad here? " <br /> <br />Must say, a fabulous point!<br /><br />"I also know girls who don't like to be instructed themselves but keep on targeting their guys at every step..."<br /><br />I have to say, this happens when the tables get turned, but this is a phase before the two genders learn to co-exist on an equal footing. But a good point.<br /><br />And loved the last point, the msg u gave to the guys!! Very good one!<br /><br />On a lighter note, I was listening to this joke today <br /><br />Q -what is the difference between arranged marriage and love marriage?<br /><br />A- You marry YOUR girl friend in love marriage and in arranged marriage, you marry someone else's!!<br /><br />So, it's high time we set same standards of virginity etc for wife and GF.<br /><br />thanks a lot for your views!!<br /><br />RESTLESSA Restless Mind With A Sensitive Heart!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15235186296193977056noreply@blogger.com