tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post2971045337614694163..comments2024-03-05T13:39:10.805+05:30Comments on My World – My Perception: Pati Patni Aur Tu!Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-10817416411398122032011-10-14T19:22:47.500+05:302011-10-14T19:22:47.500+05:30My would-be has been my friend from a decade now a...My would-be has been my friend from a decade now and he calls me 'Tu'. Yes, infront of his parents/Family i call him 'aap' and when alone i too address him with 'tu', Not because he objects it, but because I do understand that his parents might not like it. I dont feel bad about it. I feel how you address doesnt make a very big difference if you respect and love your spouse... I know he respects me and I respect him. That's all is required. <br /><br />-Sowjee<br />http://sowjee-crux-of-life.blogspot.com/Sowjanyawebnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-88699591539232749402011-10-14T15:35:30.778+05:302011-10-14T15:35:30.778+05:30I say Aap to everybody and I love how it sounds. I...I say Aap to everybody and I love how it sounds. I say 'aap' to kids too and actually I have heard many parents use it.<br />Its not only in Hindi in Tamil which is my mother tongue also - the rule is the husband addresses the wife with equivalent of 'tu' and the wife addresses the husband with the equivalent of 'aap'. I hate it when I hear it. Public or not - I shall address my husband no different from what he addresses me. That's my rule.<br /><br />I like English's neutral You.Towards Harmonyhttp://prathama-raghavan.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-40095317472890755432011-10-14T15:13:31.580+05:302011-10-14T15:13:31.580+05:30Yeah rightly said, as long the space of the woman ...Yeah rightly said, as long the space of the woman is ack and respected... but do u really think it happens. Either the couples are in their honeymoon phase (!) or the guy would give in to the dominating wife ( and vice versa) or he would bother much... and then do u call ack the space?<br /><br />Quite funnily, not evena single girl has commented as yet!!!<br /><br />For me, NO. Saying aap does not mean u r formal... it is respect for one's individuality. Esp in Punjabi families.... this is lacking.RESTLESShttp://myworldmyperception.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-70673119986166651872011-10-14T15:01:56.499+05:302011-10-14T15:01:56.499+05:30Aakash, ok so u r single and a guy, so u won't...Aakash, ok so u r single and a guy, so u won't really feel what i am saying :) <br /><br />I think it's high time men talk and treat their partner as an individual having her own share of respect and for me 'tum' is a symbolic shift towards it.<br /><br />but thanks for sharing ur view :)RESTLESShttp://myworldmyperception.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-57125911888108809302011-10-14T14:59:26.177+05:302011-10-14T14:59:26.177+05:30Vishal, but i have seen that in urban and educated...Vishal, but i have seen that in urban and educated ppl too. Oh yes, its rampant in rural, urban villages, uneducated ppl.RESTLESShttp://myworldmyperception.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-53709259817493300662011-10-14T13:16:05.256+05:302011-10-14T13:16:05.256+05:30@ Rachit - I think i did mention that i am talking...@ Rachit - I think i did mention that i am talking about Delhi culture, if not then i correct myself. I know ppl from Lucknow and the sweet language they use. I fact, i myself prefer 'aap' for anyone, just one - younger or older, and it seems quite out of place with many ppl around me.<br /><br />Well, i don't want to start a war of words betwen Lucknow and Western UP!<br /><br />thanks Rachit!RESTLESShttp://myworldmyperception.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-48857016508971118272011-10-14T13:13:22.564+05:302011-10-14T13:13:22.564+05:30@ Jack Uncle, wow! grt to know about how u address...@ Jack Uncle, wow! grt to know about how u address ur better half! <br /><br />You said what i could not explain that 'tu' is fine to show closeness, but i can't be a one way traffic!!! Very well expressed!<br /><br />tks:)RESTLESShttp://myworldmyperception.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-41322294567207882362011-10-14T13:11:23.945+05:302011-10-14T13:11:23.945+05:30Rachit wrote this comment ( which didn't show ...Rachit wrote this comment ( which didn't show in disqus) :<br /><br />There is something wrong you mentioned in the post.. as I hail from Lucknow there is no space from tum or tu in the language style of Lucknowiites.. we usually call each other using aap.. using tum and tu are considered to be derogatory and a thing to be used by only the people of western UP. <br /><br />Weakest LINKRESTLESShttp://myworldmyperception.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-37420864308976620112011-10-13T17:16:50.869+05:302011-10-13T17:16:50.869+05:30It is a regional thing. In Maharashtra the wives w...It is a regional thing. In Maharashtra the wives will refer to their husbands as 'my mister' and the husband will refer to his wife as 'my mrs.' :)magiceyenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-26056596670365351582011-10-13T01:57:14.018+05:302011-10-13T01:57:14.018+05:30There is something wrong you mentioned in the post...There is something wrong you mentioned in the post.. as I hail from Lucknow there is no space from tum or tu in the language style of Lucknowiites.. we usually call each other using aap.. using tum and tu are considered to be derogatory and a thing to be used by only the people of western UP. <br /><br />Weakest LINKRachithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09671194017987611900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-37797619050369802992011-10-12T23:01:03.380+05:302011-10-12T23:01:03.380+05:30Restless,
Thought provoking. In Spanish "ust...Restless,<br /><br />Thought provoking. In Spanish "usted" is used for you in formal way while "tu" in informal way. Each language has own way. TU shows closeness as you have said it yourself but it can not be one way traffic. We will complete 40 years next month but have been addressing each other by our first names since marriage. <br /><br />Take care<br /><br />PS : Left comments in previous 2 posts also. No views in my space? Jacknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-21872941964705830252011-10-12T20:40:41.522+05:302011-10-12T20:40:41.522+05:30mmm.. read.. you have a point there. and nicely wr...mmm.. read.. you have a point there. and nicely written too.. since i as a reader, could feel the anguish...!!!! <br /><br />anyhow, i am of the opinion that this thing does not matter much. what is required in a relationship is mutual understanding and respect for each other's individuality.. now.. if by calling one's woman as 'tu' define a situation where the husband does not acknowledge and respect the space for his woman, then there is a problem. but so long as it is not there, and calling his woman 'tu' would be just another way of being informal with her, it's okay. <br /><br />by the way, just to shoot one question back.. and this is for all the women readers of this post and the blog.. how would you all feel if your husbands continue addressing you as 'aap' (well, to a certain point not point, rather, but certain time,in the initial days of marriage, it feels okay). don't you think it will amount to both partners being sooo formal with each other..? BookWormnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-81916420750263170702011-10-11T17:58:01.390+05:302011-10-11T17:58:01.390+05:30Well... 'Tu' has always sounded a little o...Well... 'Tu' has always sounded a little offensive in the Indian family. Sometimes we refrain from using it even with our siblings, though we freely use it amongst friends. Plus, the rural India is still quite male dominated, wherein women sometimes shudder to speak to their husbands, while the latter conveniently use 'tu' to address their wives. I concur with the point you made of the use of 'tu' in marriages in rural India (men mostly look down at their wives).Vishal .noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2021738822692225370.post-70411149830921960232011-10-11T17:28:07.154+05:302011-10-11T17:28:07.154+05:30It might sound stereotyped... but I don't thin...It might sound stereotyped... but I don't think it's that big a matter of importance. I see so many couples around me who follow the 'tu-aap' relationship but then they respect each other and the dominance of the husband thing is not there. I guess it's more or less a matter of past generations coz nowadays using names is also quite common. <br />Do we really need to dig this issue to give it importance it doesn't deserve is my question. <br />Oh btw I am single, blissfully single :D<br /><br />aJAakash Johryhttp://profiles.google.com/aakash2002noreply@blogger.com